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I am always looking for new places to advertise my listings online. One of our top producing websites is for horse property. Everytime I found a place to list, I would list and I have been able to generate a lot of clients off of these ads. They are just out there and as the nature of the web is...once something is online it is nearly impossible to get it offline. So, where else does your advertising dollar do that?

My sites generate three leads a day. Most of them are higher priced buyers looking for horse property. Now, if you are wanting to sell a horse property and you are a listing agent or even a for sale by owern, I have a surprise for you. I just launched a brand new site that will serve as a one stop horse property listing mega. The address is www.findhorseproperty.com

If you are selling horse property, you have to get yourself on here! You will be glad you did!

Warm Regards,

Michelle Shelton, REALTOR
www.findhorseproperty.com

 

People have winning formulas to get what they want from those around them. I find it interesting when I “see” these formula’s play out.

The most interesting thing is that most of the time, the people themselves are not aware they have a winning formula. Now that I think about it, the people they use the formula on are typically not aware of it either. The receiver typically has many other relationships in their lives that use similar versions of the same formula. The Universe seems to line it all up for them. It is peculiar for sure. Do you even know what I am talking about? I hate to lose people before I even get started so allow me to give you some examples to ponder to see if you can figure out your winning formulas. Oh and I should let you know, most people have several. That way if one doesn’t work, we have a backup. After all, we do like to get our way and get what we want.

I had a situation recently with a member of my husband’s family. Since I have been married for over 20 years and I plan to stay married, I should stress that I will not be using names. It doesn’t have anything to do with protecting the innocent. It has to do with protecting myself. Did I mention that many winning formula’s come from protection of self? If I did deep, this is probably one of my winning formulas. *Sigh* I have found that these formulas are sort of like unwinding a finely knit spider web. A seemingly never-ending and delicate job.

Back to the situation. It had to do with Christmas. Oh and by the way…holiday’s are riddled with winning formula’s. It seems everyone wants things to look a certain way around the holiday’s and if their level of communication is less evolved, the winning formula’s tend to come out!

This particular individual wanted us to come to a certain gathering on Christmas. He gave us the place….vaguely. No time was mentioned. Christmas Day was what was communicated. Since my husband had worked five 12 hour shifts, including Christmas Eve, all in the week before Christmas, it was fair to say he was tired. Not just tired. Dog tired. Not to mention we had friends over on Christmas Eve and he didn’t go to bed until after 1:00 in the morning and once again got up to work on Christmas Day at 7:00 AM. Of course he had a choice to not work that much. This isn’t me putting him in a place of victim, it is a place he chose and he was good with his choice. He knew he would be tired. He was tired. He got off work at 2:00 and we had dinner at our home with our soon to be adult and adult children and my elderly mother. After dinner we cleaned up and then opened our gifts. Since my husband was falling asleep during the opening of gifts, I suggested he go lay down for an hour and a half or so. By this time it was after 4:30 in the afternoon.

He was concerned about his family being upset, (evidently he has been on the receiving end of the winning formula for years), still, his body was screaming for a nap so he went and laid down and got some much needed rest. When he woke up around 5:30 we got up and went to the family members home. We were met pleasantly enough by everyone except the one family member that had invited us. He was icy cold and withdrawn. Pouting, would be the word I would use, (sorry to say, just another winning formula). When he invited us, he had said the goal was to unite the entire family. Apparently not. I decided not to take on his stuff and we enjoyed our time there and went home around 10:30 that night.

A few days later came the winning formula call. It went like this: “I am really disappointed in you and Paul. I respect you and you don’t respect me by showing up late on Christmas. As much personal growth work as you have done, it seems you could at least show up at a decent time and be with your family for Christmas.” The winning formula was now to make me feel bad because I didn’t do what he wanted. The magic of this is, people only have the power over my feelings that I give them. No one can make me feel bad without my permission. I am not bad. I didn’t do anything bad. I am 46 years old and I can make my own decisions as to how I spend my time. If I had made a time agreement and not honored it, that would be one thing. The only agreement was to come over sometime on Christmas. We knew they would be playing cards until late that evening. I quickly realized that this person had gone through his entire life shaming others to get what he wanted. If he was able to make them feel bad, they would do what he wanted and he would get his way next time. The thing is…I didn’t feel bad. I wasn’t takeing the bait. I actually took it to the next level and told him that this tactic was not going to work on me any more and he would have to do something different to mix it up.

Needless to say..he did, the next tactic was thrown out. The temper tantrum. The thing about the Temper Tantrum is the people that it works on…well, they stick around and do what the tantrum thrower wants. The rest of the people go away. This tends to leave the Temper Tantrum thrower with a unique problem, the only people that want to be around him is needy people that are too afraid to stand up for themselves. They tend to tell the tantrum throwing exactly what he / she wants to hear just to stay out of trouble. The problem with this is it not only supports unhealthy relationships, it creates unhealthy relationships. Sometimes people call it a Co-Dependent relationship. The tantrum thrower tends to attract people that have poor self esteem and low levels of confidence. They sort of think this is how they deserve to be treated. The best thing a person can do is love the tantrum thrower and not take part in the tantrum. Very easy to say, sometimes a challenge to do.

A word of caution…when the tantrum works, the thrower will continue to throw tantrums. It also sets a stage for how you expect to be treated. It tells the person it is okay for them to behave that way towards you. In my opinion, it all connects back to parenting. This is how adults got our winning formula’s in the first place. When we are young, we see what works to get our way. Once we find a few things we stick with them. Some people check out. Sometimes people will pick fights with their aggressors so their aggressors will leave them alone. What they really want is to check out and not talk to anyone. They find a way to get what they want. The clincher to the winning formula is you get to win….well sort of. You and you alone win. Everyone else tends to lose. It is not great for relationships, that is for sure. A true Win / Win formula comes from choice. It isn’t about ego and getting our own way. A Win / Win mentality comes from seeing both sides to the situation and creating from a place of love. It starts with a heart at peace. It is a mind-set that everyone CAN win and that is the only goal no matter how it looks. It comes from being in relationship with others and communicating what it is we want and finding out what they want and creating from THAT place. It takes a very high level of communication and patience and understanding. We have to be able to set our old formula’s aside and develop new formulas. (Formula’s never die or go away…that’s another article!)

So, the skinny? The skinny on this is it always goes back to changing one’s self first. Starting with a heart at peace. We cannot change others. The only thing we can do is become aware and unravel our own spider web to see what makes us tick. Each time you untangle a piece you become healthier. It is a lifetime process. Once you do that, you know what you are dealing with and you can make different choices and start creating your life…by design, not from circumstances and old patterns. My question to you is are you doing that? If not, why not? If not now, when? Coach Michelle

Is texting 90990 a SCAM?
By Michelle Shelton

In the aftermath of the horrible earthquake that hit Haiti on Tuesday evening, supports have jumped into action. Everyone wants to help when there is a tragedy. This is noble of course. Just make sure that you check out the sources that as for money. The Internet and texting has made it so much easier and faster to rally support after such an event.

I received a text on my facebook wall saying to text ‘Haiti’ to 90990 and at first I was ready to copy and paste it and then I stopped. I thought, what a perfect time for someone to take advantage. How do I know where the money is going? The message said it would automatically be added to my phone bill. Wow. Someone is going to receive a lot of money…if it really is going to help…GREAT. I just wanted to be sure.

Technology has made things so easy. I love it. The thing is…I always want to check things out.

So far, I only know of two legitimate texting donations for Haiti and their relief efforts:

The U.S. State Department set up the first one. Text ‘HAITI’ to 90999. Texting “HAITI” to the number will donate $10 to the American Red Cross, and will appear as a charge on your wireless bill.

Apparently, when you text ‘Yele to 501501 this will donate $5 to a non-profit organization founded by a Haiti native. You can also donate on the website – when you text, the $5 is also charged to your cell phone bill.

A word of caution. Watch out for scams during this time. As sad as it is, it does occur around disasters and schemers are quick to take advantage of Americans’ generosity.

Humans have a lot to Learn from Dogs!

I think as humans we have so much to learn from animals. My dog, Sophie, had five pups on December 18, 2009. They are cute of course. They are puppies after all.

If only I would trust myself that I have the answers like Sophie does. I was so concerned when she was about to deliver that she wouldn’t know what to do. From a human perspective, it seems disgusting…eating the placenta, chewing through the umbilical cord. I wanted to save her from having to do this stuff. She would have none of it! She knew exactly what to do and she did it with style. She kept her pups very, very clean. She cared for them and the first week, she didn’t leave their side.

The second week she would feed them and then leave them for short periods. She still stayed close to them. If anyone went back to look at them she kept a watchful eye. After all their eyes weren’t even open yet!

The third week she fed them and then would stay away from them the majority of the time. The kids made comments about what a bad mother she was. Hmmm. I found this interesting. I reminded them that as a mother it is our job to allow you do learn to do things for yourselves. It often meant watching you make mistakes so that you can learn the ways of the world. Not bailing you out of situations that you can figure out yourself.

As the pups got bigger I brought them into my office and used a baby pool for them to play and run in during the day. I saw how they depended on each other and how Sophie encouraged that. They were really whining one day and she went and got my daughters stuffed animal and put it in with them and then left them again. I could see that she would stay close and watch them until they would comfort themselves and go to sleep. She didn’t rock them and sing and create a dependency for sleep…she allowed them to learn to comfort themselves.

This was amazing to me. As a mother to five children, I have made all the mistakes. Some bigger than others. I love all of my children. I simply can see what worked and what didn’t work. I can see a huge difference between the way I parented the older children compared to the way I parented the younger children.

I think Sophie is an excellent mother. She is the perfect blend between loving and harsh. My husband calls it pure instinct. I suppose he is right about a dog. The thing I want to know…why as humans do we question our own answers? I wonder.

So, I leave you with this…I have these puppies for sale…how many do you want?

Do you have the KW Toolbar for your computer? If not, you are going to want to get it! It is FREE and man, is it awesome!

There is now a website / blog that includes all of the activity and updates that occur on the KW.com toolbar so you can keep up with the latest updates and additions. If you are a Keller Williams Agent you MUST have this toolbar. It will really support you in your business. What would it do for you to have all of the most used resources right at the top of your computer screen? Top Producer? Login to your web based email? KW Connect? Mapps Coaching? Bold Training? MLS Logins by state? MC Intranet Login?

The Team Leaders are announcing this toolbar at the Partner's Meetings and it is an excellent recruitment tool. If you don't have it, you really don't realize how helpful it is.

The good news it is FREE to download. We ask for a small donation...even a buck helps out to keep the hosting paid for and for our time. We could sell it, I know, I just don't want to do that. I built it when I was a Keller Williams Agent and I built it for the agents. I would just like to keep it free for everyone...so make a donation! It helps!

Thanks so much...oh yes, check it out at www.kwtoolbar.info

 

I have been working on honing my site at www.askmichelleshelton.com

It is the number one website to search for Arizona Horse Property on google. It comes up under various searches and part of the reason is because it has been up for over five years. The other reason is the extensive searches that show Arizona Horse property. I have seperate pages one for Gilbert Horse property, Chandler Horse Property, Scottsdale Horse Property, Queen Creek Horse Property and Mesa Horse Property. I also have some referral agents that work the areas that are further out such as Payson Horse Property, Prescott Horse Property and Casa Grande Horse Property.

There are a couple of other sites that I am working on to spread the word and they are great sites too. They are really blogs that have the abiity to search the Arizona MLS through a mapping tool that we have purchased and use filters with. I also have information rss fed into my site.

So, if you are in the market looking for Arizona Horse Property, please check out www.askmichelleshelton.com or you can also go to www.mapazhorseproperty.com

I will have a new site launching soon where horse property realtors can not only find horse property and advertise, they can become a referral agent with us and get leads from the site.

If you are a horse property specialist, please contact us.

By Michelle Shelton, Professional REALTOR® & CEO of AZ Mastermind Group, LLC

We have all heard that we only use 10% of our brains. You can read various writings online by Benjamin Radford where he refers to Dr. Barry Beyerstein's research disputing this.

Okay, so, maybe it would be more accurate to say that some REALTORS® only engage 10% of their brain when they are supposed to be educating their clients.

Either way...you are obviously using much more of your brain than either of these two. How do we know that? Because you are here of course! It is proven that our clients and potential clients are always looking for more and that is what brings them to this website. Some call it devine intervention, some call it the secret. We think it is pure and simple brain power. Our clients are smarter. The people we serve are all smarter than the average population.

So, with you personally in mind, these articles will stimulate at least 1% of your brain. At the risk of repeating myself, this is obvious because you are on this website reading all you can about real estate plain and simple. Otherwise you would be on another site getting a painful lesson on bait and switch marketing or perhaps a lesson on "how not to return a phone call" or worse yet, maybe you would be reading from a "just trust me, I am the neighborhood expert" site. Not to worry, you are safe with us. Put on your thinking cap and tie it loosley as it is about to expand. You are already learning more just by reading my blog! You can check out my marketing site and my coaching site too at www.boldtalent.com!

Acknowledgments

Okay, we use all of our brains. If this page is really disturbing you and you are questioning the fact that all your brain cells are functioning...the following resources are yours to expland you thinking even more. Really. 

References

• Beyerstein, Barry. 1999. Whence cometh the myth that we only use ten percent of our brains? In Mind-myths: Exploring Everyday Mysteries of the Mind and Brain, edited by Sergio Della Sala. New York: John Wiley and Sons.
• Brain Drain. 1999.The Last Word (column). New Scientist 19/26 December 1998-2 January 1999.
• Clark, Michael. 1997. Reason to Believe. New York: Avon Books
• Geller, Uri, and Jane Struthers. 1996. Uri Geller's Mind-power Book. London: Virgin Books.

Another Researcher

Benjamin Radford is Managing Editor of the Skeptical Inquirer and holds a degree in psychology.